Pain and gain

"There are places in the heart that do not exist.
Before they can be, pain must be."(anonymous)

Are we willing to feel the pain we must experience to have those places in our hearts? It's a necessary part of growing up, no matter what age we finally begin to do that.

Am I willing to allow what might happen to myself and others (especially my kids) when the protections and anesthetics are removed and they have to learn to balance their emotion and their intellect for themselves? Can I really control anything anyway, even for myself?